Thursday, 9 February 2017

Targeting the seven basic patterns associated with depression: 7. Prevention

This is the final one in a series of seven blog posts published over several weeks in which I explain briefly how the symptoms of depression are dealt with using hypnotic suggestion and neuro-linguistic programming (NLP). Links to the previous six articles are available below. The session structures are based on the work of the American psychologist Dr Michael Yapko and the co-founder of the "Human Givens" psychological system, Dr Joe Griffin. This approach provides a gradual lifting of depression symptoms over the seven week programme. It works by targeting the unconscious thought processes that the depressed state is built upon.

1. Dealing with sleep disturbance


2. Looking to the future optimistically


3. It’s time to do something different


4. The complex issue of control


5. Drawing the line


6. Guilty or not guilty?  (follow the links to my earlier posts)


7. Prevention

As a client emerges from depression, it is perhaps not surprising that there is often a fear of the possibility of relapse. Depression is often triggered by stressful life situations and, of course, it is impossible to prevent stressful events from occurring in one's life. From time to time everyone experiences disappointment, rejection, humiliation or loss. The final session of the programme is designed to help the formerly depressed person face life's challenges with a comfortable knowledge that they now have the skills and the mindset to cope, and even flourish.

Dr Michael Yapko's approach has the goal of empowering the client to choose their own response to any situation and to help them discover that they have the foresight to realistically anticipate circumstances. The work of the previous six therapeutic sessions all come together in this final one the jigsaw puzzle is now complete. As before, the hypnotic part of the session is recorded onto CD for use at home. By this time, the client now has seven recordings, six of which are aimed at specific depression symptoms, and this final one, which sets the former sufferer on the pathway of self-reliance, able to lead a satisfying and enjoyable life, and to make their own choices and not feel pressured by the unrealistic or unreasonable demands of others.

There are a lot of good things to look forward to.

If you are a depression sufferer and would like a more detailed and specific explanation of how this approach could work for you, please feel free to contact me to organise a free introductory consultation.






021 487 6072

Thursday, 19 January 2017

Targeting the seven basic patterns associated with depression: 6. Guilty or not guilty?

This is the sixth in a series of seven blog posts published over several weeks in which I explain briefly how the symptoms of depression are dealt with using hypnotic suggestion and neuro-linguistic programming (NLP). I will post links to the other articles as they become available. The session structures are based on the work of the American psychologist Dr Michael Yapko and the co-founder of the "Human Givens" psychological system, Dr Joe Griffin. This approach provides a gradual lifting of depression symptoms over the seven week programme. It works by targeting the unconscious thought processes that the depressed state is built upon.

1. Dealing with sleep disturbance

2. Looking forward to the future optimistically

3. It's time to do something different

4. The complex issue of control

5. Drawing the line  (follow the links to my earlier posts)

6. Guilty or not guilty?
In the fourth blog post in this series I discussed the issue of control, and particularly the way in which the typical depression sufferer does not have a clear idea of what is and what is not within his or her control. A similar confusion often exists around the sense of responsibility. What is my responsibility and what is someone else's, and as a consequence what is and is not my fault or someone else's fault are often causes for great concern and worry. Guilty feelings are the inevitable result. This can sometimes include guilt about the bad choices other people make. The depressed person's self perception is often that they are somehow responsible for not preventing those people from making those choices.

The work in session six is centred around recognising the limits of what one can actually control, and learning how not to take responsibility for things that fall outside those limits. After all, there are many people who habitually use the "guilt trip" as a means to avoid taking responsibility for their own action or decision making - passing that responsibility on to another. The person with a depressed mindset is often a willing volunteer to take on another's shortcomings as his or her own, but by doing so, he or she is not actually doing themselves or that other person any favours. By taking responsibility for what they cannot control, and is not even theirs to control, they are actually preventing that other person from growing and learning to be more resourceful, while at the same time causing additional and unnecessary burdens for themselves.

It is also important for the client to learn to deal with the self critical internal dialogue that often accompanies this cycle of guilt, and this is an recurring theme throughout therapy. As in previous sessions, the trance part of the session is recorded for the client to use at home. By this point in therapy, clients have a library of six different recorded hypnotic sessions available to them and most are noticing a significant change in their mood and thought patterns as a result. Quite frequently the sixth is the last session, but some are concerned about the possibility of a future relapse, which is why the next therapy session is focused on the matter of prevention.

Links to the seven stages will be posted here as they become available:
  1. Dealing with sleep disturbance
  2. Looking to the future optimistically
  3. It’s time to do something different
  4. The complex issue of control
  5. Drawing the line
  6. Guilty or not guilty?
  7. Prevention
If you are a depression sufferer and would like a more detailed and specific explanation of how this approach could work for you, please feel free to contact me to organise a free introductory consultation.





021 487 6072

Tuesday, 8 November 2016

Targeting the seven basic patterns associated with depression: 5. Drawing the line

This is the fifth in a series of seven blog posts  published over several weeks in which I explain briefly how the symptoms of depression are dealt with using hypnotic suggestion and neuro-linguistic programming (NLP). I will post links to the other articles as they become available. The session structures are based on the work of the American psychologist Dr Michael Yapko and the co-founder of the "Human Givens" psychological system, Dr Joe Griffin. This approach provides a gradual lifting of depression symptoms over the seven week programme. It works by targeting the unconscious thought processes that the depressed state is built upon.

1. Dealing with sleep disturbance

2. Looking forward to the future optimistically

3. It's time to do something different

4. The complex issue of control (follow the links to my earlier posts)


5. Drawing the line

One of the typical thought patterns associated with the depressed state of mind is what Michael Yapko calls "global" thinking; defined as a tendency to see only the big picture and not the individual parts that make up that picture. He describes it as seeing only the forest, and not the individual trees. This way of thinking is what leads to the feeling of being overwhelmed which is frequently experienced during depression. The fifth session of the programme is generally when this particular thought pattern is addressed.

Being able to break down that big picture into smaller, more manageable chunks enables the client to get a sense of control and of priority about their thoughts and problems. This means they can then be tackled one at a time - rather than all at once. After all, doing everything all at once would be overwhelming even for the most organised of individuals!

This session introduces the client to the concept of boundaries - both internal and external ones. Internally we can  separate our thoughts from our feelings, our impulses and urges from our actions, and our work life from our personal life. There are also different "parts" to our personalities; compassionate parts, determined parts, playful parts, and so on. Each part is useful in different circumstances, and less so in others. The hypnotic part of the session encourages the client to explore these inner resources, and the boundaries between them. Externally, especially in our interactions with others, we can learn to separate what belongs to us from what belongs to others, what we believe from what others believe, that the opinions of others are only opinions and not facts, and how we can explore what others demand of us and decide what we are prepared to give. The hypnotic process is also designed to  help the client instinctively draw lines and boundaries between these parts and these concepts, and to notice automatically when someone  is attempting to cross the boundary in an unwanted way. The client becomes able to confidently deal with such "invasions" by automatically accessing the appropriate internal part for any given situation. The result is an increasing feeling of control in a world that had previously seemed beyond control.


Links to the seven stages will be posted here as they become available:
  1. Dealing with sleep disturbance
  2. Looking to the future optimistically
  3. It’s time to do something different
  4. The complex issue of control
  5. Drawing the line
  6. Guilty or not guilty?
  7. Prevention
If you are a depression sufferer and would like a more detailed and specific explanation of how this approach could work for you, please feel free to contact me to organise a free introductory consultation.





021 487 6072

Monday, 18 July 2016

Targeting the seven basic patterns associated with depression: 4. The complex issue of control

This is the fourth in a series of seven blog posts to be published over the coming weeks in which I will explain briefly how the symptoms of depression are dealt with using hypnotic suggestion and neuro-linguistic programming (NLP). I will post links to the other articles as they become available. The session structures are based on the work of the American psychologist Dr Michael Yapko and the co-founder of the "Human Givens" psychological system, Dr Joe Griffin. This approach provides a gradual lifting of depression symptoms over the seven week programme. It works by targeting the unconscious thought processes that the depressed state is built upon.

1. Dealing with sleep disturbance

2. Looking forward to the future optimistically

3. It's time to do something different (follow the links to my earlier posts)


4. The complex issue of control

Everyone wants to be in control of their own life and their own destiny as much as is possible, but most people understand that not everything in life is in fact controllable, no matter how much they would wish it to be otherwise. Sometimes things go wrong, despite their best efforts. It's the way life can be.

The depressed patient very often has a distorted perception of issues of control. This is generally in one of two ways:

The first of these ways is the perception of oneself as being helpless in the face of circumstances or of the actions of other people. In short, it could be described as a "victim" mentality. Everything is out of control, there is always someone or something else to blame. The sufferer sees themselves as being unable to control the external people or events that are responsible for his or her predicament and are causing the depression. Of course, this type of thinking is itself out of control and actually contributes to and reinforces the depression.

The other side of the coin is the distorted pattern thinking referred to as illusion of control. Well-meaning maxims such as "where there's a will, there's a way" or the perceived "power of positive thinking", or the "law of attraction" as marketed by many self-help books lead many people to have unrealistic expectations of what they are actually can control. When things don't work out as planned, disappointment, frustration, and often anger can ensue. It's another route to the same destination; a feeling of being the victim of circumstances and life being out of control.

Self esteem is the first casualty of these thought patterns. Session four of the programme is chiefly about rebuilding this, by hypnotically teaching the client to understand better what is in his or her control, and what is not. This leads to better choices being made about where emotions are to be invested, and a recovering sense of becoming more and more in control of one's feelings - and one's life. The client becomes ready for the next phase, which is dealing with boundaries; what is my problem, and what is someone else's? That will be the subject of the next session and the next article in this series.

Links to the seven stages will be posted here as they become available:
  1. Dealing with sleep disturbance
  2. Looking to the future optimistically
  3. It’s time to do something different
  4. The complex issue of control
  5. Drawing the line
  6. Guilty or not guilty?
  7. Prevention
If you are a depression sufferer and would like a more detailed and specific explanation of how this approach could work for you, please feel free to contact me to organise a free introductory consultation.




021 487 6072






Wednesday, 29 June 2016

Targeting the seven basic patterns associated with depression: 3. It's time to do something different

This is the third in a series of seven blog posts to be published over the coming weeks in which I will explain briefly how the symptoms of depression are dealt with using hypnotic suggestion and neuro-linguistic programming (NLP). I will post links to the other articles as they become available. The session structures are based on the work of the American psychologist Dr Michael Yapko and the co-founder of the "Human Givens" psychological system, Dr Joe Griffin. This approach provides a gradual lifting of depression symptoms over the seven week programme. It works by targeting the unconscious thought processes that the depressed state is built upon.

1. Dealing with sleep disturbance
2. Looking forward to the future optimistically
(follow the links to my earlier posts)


3. It's time to do something different


Depressed people often describe themselves as being stuck, maybe in a rut or in a loop, or as being helpless (or even hopeless) in the face of their troubles. Typically whatever it is they are doing is not helping them, but they are unable to think of an alternative to their familiar strategy.

We all have ways of coping with life's experiences that have served us well over the years. We come to rely on these strategies and for the most part, and for most people they work. Sometimes, however, something happens that is outside our experience and that seems to demand a new pattern; a new way of thinking. A depression sufferer seems unable to create a new pattern of thinking, and becomes trapped in the loop of constantly reviewing the same thoughts and ideas. As these are the very same thoughts and ideas that have so far consistently failed to solve the problem, the feelings of hopelessness magnify and the depression gets worse. It is, indeed, a very vicious circle.

It is in the third session of the depression therapy programme that we really begin to tackle this self-defeating thought process, and the client is encouraged in the trance process to develop a more flexible approach and to move away from worry and towards problem solving. Hypnosis is vital here. Every depressed person knows consciously and logically that they need to do something different. Hypnosis is the key to unlocking the door to the unconscious (or subconscious) part of the mind which is after all where the problem actually is. Depression is not a conscious choice - no one would choose to be depressed; it is an unconscious choice, so it is in the unconscious mind where the most important work is done. That is why this approach is so much faster than CBT or traditional counselling in achieving relief. Hypnosis accesses the problem area directly.

By the next session, the client is typically beginning to see some changes, and we will move on to discuss a feeling that most sufferers have - that of not being in control of their life. That will be the subject of the next blog post in this series.


Links to the seven stages will be posted here as they become available:
  1. Dealing with sleep disturbance
  2. Looking to the future optimistically
  3. It’s time to do something different
  4. The complex issue of control
  5. Drawing the line
  6. Guilty or not guilty?
  7. Prevention
If you are a depression sufferer and would like a more detailed and specific explanation of how this approach could work for you, please feel free to contact me to organise a free introductory consultation.



021 487 6072

Wednesday, 22 June 2016

Talk to me!

I always speak personally to new clients before they start therapy or coaching. Not all therapists do this, but I believe it is essential that every potential client has a good understanding of what to expect from their time with me. This is the reason I do not use online booking agencies. I want to be sure that my customer knows what they are buying, that their expectations are realistic, and that I am the right person to help them achieve those expectations.

In some cases, a telephone chat is all that is needed to answer any questions and to explain how the process is likely to work. Typically people looking for coaching, or to remove a habit or a phobia would fall into this category. These are problems that are normally dealt with in a single session.

If treatment is likely to be longer, the potential client really deserves a face to face meeting to explain exactly into what they are investing their time, money and emotions. This is why I offer a free introductory consultation to persons interested in therapy for anxiety conditions, panic attacks, depression and weight loss. It gives you a chance to meet me and decide if you are comfortable working with me. It gives me a chance to explain the process, what it might feel like, and to answer any questions regarding it.

So if you wish to talk to me, just pick up the phone....

021 487 6072
www.riversidehypnotherapy.com

Thursday, 2 June 2016

Targeting the seven basic patterns associated with depression: 2. Looking forward to the future optimistically

This is the second in a series of seven blog posts to be published over the coming weeks in which I will explain briefly how the symptoms of depression are dealt with using hypnotic suggestion and neuro-linguistic programming (NLP). I will post links to the other articles as they become available. The session structures are based on the work of the American psychologist Dr Michael Yapko and the co-founder of the "Human Givens" psychological system, Dr Joe Griffin. This approach provides a gradual lifting of depression symptoms over the seven week programme. It works by targeting the unconscious thought processes that the depressed state is built upon.

1. Dealing with sleep disturbance (follow the link to my earlier post)

2. Looking forward to the future optimistically

One of the foundation stones upon which the depressed state is built is that of the sufferer's negative expectations. It is typical for depressed persons to believe that the future is only going to bring them exactly the same kind of painful experiences that the present is giving them or that they have experienced in the past. It is very difficult for them to see a positive future, Even though they may understand at a logical, conscious level that the outlook is not totally bleak, the unconscious mind remains firmly unconvinced!

The second session of the programme is usually when I begin to address these thought patterns in earnest, although some preliminary work has already been done in session one. The aim is to build a positivity about the therapeutic process and about the client's future life. Hypnosis is used to produce a deeply relaxed state, during which the unconscious mind is provided with suggestion that the person's future experience is, in fact, actually changeable and not rigidly fixed. The client begins to understand at a very deep level that change is inevitable, and that it is going to happen at different levels of experience - not just the conscious level; and is going to start straight away. Hypnotic suggestion is intrinsic to the way the process works. The client begins to change his or her thought patterns without consciously realising they are doing it, because hypnosis allows us to access the unconscious mind directly; and it is of course, in the unconscious mind, not the logical conscious mind, where the problem lives.

As with all the sessions in this programme, the hypnotic session is recorded for the client's use at home. This enables repeated exposure to positive suggestion, and therefore more rapid change. The recorded session is also designed to start to align the client's thought process towards their own involvement in the therapy; a realisation that they need to start to do something different in order to get a different outcome, and a different set of feelings too. That concept will form the main theme of the next session.....

Links to the seven stages will be posted here as they become available:
  1. Dealing with sleep disturbance
  2. Looking to the future optimistically
  3. It’s time to do something different
  4. The complex issue of control
  5. Drawing the line
  6. Guilty or not guilty?
  7. Prevention
If you are a depression sufferer and would like a more detailed and specific explanation of how this approach could work for you, please feel free to contact me to organise a free introductory consultation.


021 487 6072